Tuesday, November 23, 2010

The art of being beautiful

The door is leaned up against a corner in my bedroom. A reminder that things
that are built right just get more beautiful with the years.
I pray my marriage gets more beautiful. The rough spots of trying to
work out the logistics of having a large family and having a loving, romantic,
intentional marriage is hard some days. As a wife, I see myself getting older
in the mirror and wonder, "will he always find me attractive?"

 Am I the only
one who thinks such things??
 Is my love for the Lord growing so that the love for my husband
is growing. Am I kinder and more gentler than I was the day before?

 Am I tuning out the world and tuning into my design as
 his wife
When the day comes and the kids are gone and it's just us again
will I look more beautiful to him then when we started? Will he, the one that
chose me above all others, think I'm more beautiful or after living with
me all these years not be able to see the true beauty because for all
the years I didn't grow in love, I just grew older. 

So many times
I didn't search out his favor I searched out my own.
I put him last when I should have put him first.
I didn't laugh at his jokes.
I didn't make love to him because I didn't have time.
I didn't make his favorite meal because it was easier to
make a quick meal for the kids.
I didn't stay up late and listen to his dreams.
I didn't forgive easily.
I forgot to write him letters.
I wanted him to romance me instead of me romancing him.
I didn't make his coffee and bring it to him in bed.
I didn't iron his clothes because I don't iron. 
I didn't make his lunch
or make his favorite supper.
or a thousand other things I should have done
 that I'm called to do.

I forgot that my job was supposed to be all about him.

Somewhere along the way we forget that we were created for our husbands
 and that's what takes away our beauty. Little by little
the world tells us it's about us and we believe.

When I'm around women that have not forgotten the true
art of their beauty, which is to love and respect their husband with all of
their heart, I think to myself, "now, she is a beautiful woman."
and she will get more beautiful with age...

Are you aging well?


Mrs. Stam said...

what a beautiful post! and am working on aging well with the help of my precious husband :-)

Jamie said...

Your blog is my favorite! I feel that you and I have much in common. I bet that you are a wonderful wife. God bless you!

Jennifer P said...

Thank you for this post. I often wonder what it will be like when it is just the two of us...So easy to self-care when we are so blessed with a large family and neglect what started the whole journey.

The Ferrill's said...

Ouch in a good way.
Thanks for reminding me of some things I may not want to hear but need to hear!

jill funkhouser said...

thanks for writing this. it hurt in a good way! I am trying! Blessings!

Tanya said...

Thank you..this is beautiful...
and thank you for your prayers before. I am at acceptance and almost joy at my upcoming suprise in May (-:

Niki said...

I love reading your posts.
I needed to hear this today!

Ginny said...


Shelly said...

Thank you!

Kathy @Teaching Good Things said...

You are such an encouragement!

Anonymous said...

You are not the only one who thinks this. I do. I wonder, especially when i fail. Thank you for helping me to think of this. Thank you for speaking truth. Beautiful post. Lord Bless you. tammy

Karen said...

Beautiful post!

Cate said...

it is so easy to get slightly derailed until you are far far apart.

lovely and beautiful reminder.

needs to be printed and hung in plain view.

The Byrd's Nest said...

What a very special reminder of how God has called us to be good wives to our husbands. Thank you.

Renata said...

What a beautiful post - thank you! I think I needed this reminder today to look out for my hubby's needs instead of my own.
God bless

Deanna Rabe - Creekside Cottage Blog said...

So beautiful...

So true...


DeliveringGrace said...

Great reminder-thank you.
Found this via Generation Cedar.

Unknown said...

Thank you for this blost post!
I must have been so wrapped up in myself and the kids that I too, must have forgotten what I was created for! Thank you for the eye opener!

Anonymous said...

What a beautiful reminder of what the Lord has called us to be. Thank you for sharing.

Grateful for Grace said...

I know it's been said, but... beautiful post. Naturally, it reminds me of Proverbs 31.

Thank you for this lovely encouraging chastisement.

Gayle @ Training Olives said...

So true and SO beautiful, Robin. I agree with you that true beauty in physical countenance comes with obeying the Lord (Moses, for example). And it can't be manufactured with make-up, hair extensions or plastic surgery. It's a beauty all of it's own, and it's the most beautiful of all.

And I love your new template! Very nice!

Elizabeth said...

Found your blog through Kelly at Generation Cedar. I really needed this beautiful reminder! Thanks for sharing:)

Laurel said...

A BEAUTIFUL post!!! Thanks.

My husband and I "fell in love" 29 years ago. However, we love each other more today than we did then ... no question.

I am not as "beautiful" in the ways of the world (due to 10 bio. babies, cancer, a car accident) ... yet, I know that he sees me as beautiful, just as I look far beyond the balding and grey hair ... to the love penetrating from his heart through his eyes.

Our hearts so long for each other, as it has now been 7 months since we have lived together (due to a job change). We write "love letters", and hide romantic cards for each other to find.

With 12 children, it would have been easy to put the love of our marriage on the back burner. But, the Lord showed us early on that we MUST take care of our relationship first, in order to be the best parents we can be.

Hope your weekend was BLESSED!

Laurel :)

Julia said...

This post just answered a prayer I haven't even prayed yet. I will never forget it. Thank you.

Dawn said...

Love this.
Much to ponder.

Mrs. Stam said...

Would I be able to link this post on my blog directing readers over here please :-)

Anonymous said...

Wow! What a beautiful post! I got here through Mrs. Stam's blog. I am now your newest follower. You are welcome to come and see our blog too.

God Bless you!

Mrs. A

Bethany Maxson said...

Thank you for this! I needed it! I linked it up over on our blog (www.maxsons.blogspot.com).


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